Blogspot8: Psychology behind Sulking

 Sulking is to be angry or upset about something and to refuse to discuss it with other people. Sulking as I know it's our English term of "nagtatampo". I don't know what is the reason why people sulking. Sometimes we feel sulk to people who take us granted. In my side, i feel sulk when people don't have time for me. But sometimes it's another way of saying you want to have of tenderness or sweetness of others. We can do it in our family, friends and in a relationship. Oftentimes, we sulk for no reason because we want to have attention of others. Earlier, I ask myself if there's a behavior connecting sulking. When I'm in the mood of sulking, I try to be silenced and never talk and socialize to other people. I can do sulking in my friends and my family, i feel so special whenever they give me affection to have a fondness. I love my friends and family but sometimes there are time that we experience to feel sulking to each other and i don't why. So, this is my research topic to know extra knowledge in sulking.




I found an article entitled "Handling sulking behavior" by Eleanor Shakiba. People in sulking behavior, is the one who is emotionally abuse. Who don't communicate to others and stay silent. One reason of sulking is if they don't get what they what. Some people become angry and irritated in other things to get some attention. She also stated in her article that when you are in sulking, you never communicate honestly and always have a complain. So she stated the four steps how to deal with people who sulks: First, describe what you see or hear so that you can make evidence for that person's tactics; Second, Bring the convert message into the open for they express what they want to say; Third, Set a clear boundary; and Lastly, Re frame their toxic behavior to bring out their positive thoughts.


According to People Skill Expert Eleanor Shakiba "people pretend that they are suffering in silence, but really, they have every intention of expressing their anger". When people in sulks, they are in silence. Sometimes people don't have any reason to become silence in a while. People who sulks need only attention and tenderness of others. Like me, when I'm in that stage I prefer to stay silence for everyone. It's like saying I'm not in the mood of having fun because I'm anger for the people around me. I don't know why I'm like this, but there are times i feel always sulk to other people.

 I read an article entitled "The Sulking Man Syndrome" by Susanne Moore. Curiosity kills so Susanne tried to research about man sulking. It is a behavior that man have when they are little boys like their mother treating them as son like God. She stated that man is sulking because they want loved by others. Boys taught they can do no wrong in their life, that they cannot be criticized by others and always appreciate for just being. They sulking because they want to treat like what their mother treated them when they we're young boys. Avoid sulking is to feel your partner to not being alone and loved them unconditionally as they love you.

According to Susanne Moore "you want to be loved and listened to, you want to be near and dear to your partner so you ask him to treat you in ways that are good for you, or you ask him not to do something that upsets you and then all hell break loose". Man is like simple girls. They only want love and to be loved by the people around them. They want a people to listened to them and always take care of there even in their downfall problem. Man sulking because sometime they feel alone in there life. Some, because they used to treat like what mother did when they are little boys. Just always feel them that he always special in your life.




In my research about Sulking, it is a passive aggressive behavior of one people. Everyone can pass this stage to have sulking. Psychologist stated some reason of sulking: feeling ignored, ashamed and embarrassed. I think, you just accept when people is sulking on you. He/She want to give only your attention so that he/she feel to make special. It is difficult to deal people with sulking behavior. Just find your place to make you small part of the world as possible.