Blogspot8: Psychology behind Sulking

 Sulking is to be angry or upset about something and to refuse to discuss it with other people. Sulking as I know it's our English term of "nagtatampo". I don't know what is the reason why people sulking. Sometimes we feel sulk to people who take us granted. In my side, i feel sulk when people don't have time for me. But sometimes it's another way of saying you want to have of tenderness or sweetness of others. We can do it in our family, friends and in a relationship. Oftentimes, we sulk for no reason because we want to have attention of others. Earlier, I ask myself if there's a behavior connecting sulking. When I'm in the mood of sulking, I try to be silenced and never talk and socialize to other people. I can do sulking in my friends and my family, i feel so special whenever they give me affection to have a fondness. I love my friends and family but sometimes there are time that we experience to feel sulking to each other and i don't why. So, this is my research topic to know extra knowledge in sulking.




I found an article entitled "Handling sulking behavior" by Eleanor Shakiba. People in sulking behavior, is the one who is emotionally abuse. Who don't communicate to others and stay silent. One reason of sulking is if they don't get what they what. Some people become angry and irritated in other things to get some attention. She also stated in her article that when you are in sulking, you never communicate honestly and always have a complain. So she stated the four steps how to deal with people who sulks: First, describe what you see or hear so that you can make evidence for that person's tactics; Second, Bring the convert message into the open for they express what they want to say; Third, Set a clear boundary; and Lastly, Re frame their toxic behavior to bring out their positive thoughts.


According to People Skill Expert Eleanor Shakiba "people pretend that they are suffering in silence, but really, they have every intention of expressing their anger". When people in sulks, they are in silence. Sometimes people don't have any reason to become silence in a while. People who sulks need only attention and tenderness of others. Like me, when I'm in that stage I prefer to stay silence for everyone. It's like saying I'm not in the mood of having fun because I'm anger for the people around me. I don't know why I'm like this, but there are times i feel always sulk to other people.

 I read an article entitled "The Sulking Man Syndrome" by Susanne Moore. Curiosity kills so Susanne tried to research about man sulking. It is a behavior that man have when they are little boys like their mother treating them as son like God. She stated that man is sulking because they want loved by others. Boys taught they can do no wrong in their life, that they cannot be criticized by others and always appreciate for just being. They sulking because they want to treat like what their mother treated them when they we're young boys. Avoid sulking is to feel your partner to not being alone and loved them unconditionally as they love you.

According to Susanne Moore "you want to be loved and listened to, you want to be near and dear to your partner so you ask him to treat you in ways that are good for you, or you ask him not to do something that upsets you and then all hell break loose". Man is like simple girls. They only want love and to be loved by the people around them. They want a people to listened to them and always take care of there even in their downfall problem. Man sulking because sometime they feel alone in there life. Some, because they used to treat like what mother did when they are little boys. Just always feel them that he always special in your life.




In my research about Sulking, it is a passive aggressive behavior of one people. Everyone can pass this stage to have sulking. Psychologist stated some reason of sulking: feeling ignored, ashamed and embarrassed. I think, you just accept when people is sulking on you. He/She want to give only your attention so that he/she feel to make special. It is difficult to deal people with sulking behavior. Just find your place to make you small part of the world as possible.

Blogspot7: Family vs Friends

The love of my glamorous family is my life greatest blessing. And also my friends, too. I'm so glad to have my family and my friends in my life today. I can't imagine how my life is without them.They we're so important to me. There are problem with family vs friends. Because sometimes there are people who truly loves there friends more than there family. Why? I think because they have broken family, his family didn't make attention, there parents' is so busy for there profession and any other possible problem. Sometimes, i can't balance my time for my family and my friends but it's not a reason to have a unequal love for them. Even though sometimes i mostly have time for my friends it doesn't mean i don't love my family. I love both of them as soon as possible I can have time to each of everyone so ever body happy.




I read an article entitled "Family and Friends are the Best Medicine" by Maia Szalavits and Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD. This article is too short but they are in gist of their main idea. They only want to share that are friends and our lovely family is our best medicine, a way to reduce our stress in our life and there our life relaxation.  Because we can stock stress to our family and they light up, too. As we grow older we can have a social life to stress relieve from our friends and some comfort from our parents.

According to Maia Szalavits and Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD "between human contact and stress relief is so primal, it's not surprising that supportive friends and family have so many health benefits". I think I'm so healthy because I have my friends and my family here in my side. For there moral support during my hardest decision, they we're my stress reliever. They seemingly irreplaceable in my life. Even though they are busy enough for there own business, whenever I need them they never fail me to make my self down. They are the best medicine in my eternal life.





 I found an article entitled "Family and Friends OR Friends vs Family?" by Paula. She stated about family and friends. How family have a strong bond to each other. Families are extremely tight and bonded for life, there are many reason, explanation and causes. She and hopefully me agreed that no perfection appear anywhere in a family. Our parents give us guidance, protection, lessons and caring love to have a decent and peaceful life. In sibling, it's our first friends and first playmates. We share our thought and happiness to our sibling. And that can grow to become integral in our life.About Friends, friends are like family. They are loyal and dedicated to an individual. As of that, her number one question is "Which is more important, Family or Friends?". She stated that her some friends answered friends is more important. But family and friends, are easily be an equal important to all of us. That we must be grateful to have there in our life, no matter how they touched our hearts.


According to Paula "there is no comparison, no contest.. they firmly embrace over the other. We can speculate on this, forever. The picture of possibilities is clear".Yes, no comparison and even contest for both side. We must not compare our family to our friends, we need to treasure them both and never fail one of them. There are possible to have a clear to her question, family and friends are equally stated in our life. Family can be our friends and friends could be our family. For me, no doubt i love all of them and no wall for my family and my friends. We must don't have advantage to each side, we must love them equally.


In this blog, I realized how much my life is so blessed to have my friends and especially my family. I don't want a competition on either side. I just want them in my life, no cure in my sadness if they're not here in my side. I feel so special that i have them, i don't have any reason to have them in my life. Lets agree that family and friends are the most precious thing in our life.

Family vs Friends? No, family and friends rather.

Blogspot6: Mythology Alliance

The term mythology refer to a collection of myth. Myth is a traditional stories and it's not true but many people believe it. I studied Greek Mythology way back on my fourth year high school. But I don't really have no idea about friendship from mythology. Because when someone say mythology, first thing came in my mind is always Aphrodite goddess of love and beauty. So i turn out to take my topic friendship in mythology so that i can learn something from reading some article about it.

I found an article entitled "Damon and Pythias" by N.S. Gill. This article tells the true friendship of the two young philosopher Damon and Pythias. In 20th century, the two young philosophers ran into trouble and went into a prison. Dionysius, a sadistic man, gave them a death penalty. But before they will lose their life. One of the young philosopher, ask to to return home first and to see his family so he pledge to return before the time appointed. While the one young philosopher, offer his life to pledge the return of his friend. After time appointed, the one man had not return but when Dionysius fixed all the security, the man returned. All people praised their loyalty, the power of friendship. They show meaning of friendship and self-sacrifice.

According to N.S. Gill "But I am speaking here of ordinary friendship; for among men who are ideally wise and perfect such situations cannot arise." At all kind of friendship even in a relationship, there are time that universe test your faith in your friendship. In friendship, no one or no body is such a perfect person to handle a perfect situation you can face in your life. But you can handle a situation to have a perfect relationship to your love ones. There are times you give up on what you have on your friendship because you think it's not worth enough in your life. Those trial can test your loyalty and how to hold your friendship.

I read an article "Undying Spirit of Friendship" by Aparna K.S. Its show the friendship of two warrior who became friends just a while they saw each other. On exhibition, where the princes demonstrate their skills and power, they taught that Arjuna is the best warrior that day. So Karna stood up and challenge Arjuna to see people how he compete and tough enough. So that on Duriyordan defend Karna, and he make him a king right away. He insisted to his father, King Dhritarashtra to make Karna to be a King of Anga. Karna overwhelmed what Duriyordan did to him so he asked how to repay it and he answered, "be my friend, for life". On the eventful day, was born a great friendship between Karna and Duriyordan.



According to Aparna K.S "we are bound by our own actions and all of us have some negative trait in us that we need to conquer." There are people who want friends by there side. Who can make their life more colorful to have them. There are things that you want to do but there are limitation on that. There are things that you seem right but sometimes didn't exist. In friendship, we accepted each other characteristic. Their are approval that can go with the negative trait in your life, but you need to conquer it. You need to think first before you have an action. Always think an option to do what you think. Especially in friendship, some people underestimate it. But if you have a friends, you will know what is the true friendship all about.


When i read those stuff about friendship in mythology, i learned that even in mythology you can have what you called a "friendship". Even it's not true, i'm so stunned to believe that. It's imagination however we can relate those stories in our life. I inspire when i was reading those article, because those stories is not common to our life. I think I want to have that in my life like Damon and Pythias, one of them sacrifice for one's happiness. I like to be loved and trusted by the people. Never fail the test of friendship.

Blogspot5: Relationship

Relationships the condition or fact of being related; connection or association. Love is the most profound emotion known to human beings. There's many relationship, it can be a mother-daughter, friends, girlfriend-boyfriends and many more. When you are in a relationship it need to know the word trust, love, acceptance and understanding. If you don't have that characteristic, I think your relationship will not work. Every relationships needs trust. It is your foundation to build your relation or connection to each other. Love, that will accept each other difference. Love is to pleasure one person. Acceptance, no matter how is she or how poor is she, you don't look the physical nor the kindness of person. Lastly, understanding is willingness to give your mind in what person is. Relationship is so hard to build but if you don't have a willingness to it, it will easily bring down your relationship.

I read an article entitled "Teens and Parents: A Battle of the Wills" by Raychelle Cassada Lohmann. In this article discussed how parents raise a teen daughter or son and how people survive the teen stage. Being a parent is not easy. Parent can share thoughts, comments, even support in her child. Don't forget to be responsible enough to teach the children for what is the best for them. Because parent is the best teacher for their child. Parent must be learn how to communicate with their children because sometimes they have a problem so parent can help to have a solution to it. Teen life is the best and fun part of our lives.  Some are rebellious but some are quiet enough to live standard. Teenager want to be independent enough to decide and choice without their parent.  Some have a lot of pressure from their friends. But it doesn't mean that you don't care anymore for you parents. Have time yo tour parents so you have a good relationship with them. Parents understand the toughest life of a teenager. Teenage life is a challenge to become and to be ready for the next chapter of life.


According to Raychelle Cassada Lohman "What is interesting about this age is that one day your teen may be telling you that you don't know what you're talking about and the next day your teen may be seeking out your advice. " Some teen is rebellious to their parent because sometime they didn't get that they want to have. Sometimes teen is not listening to their parent because they thought they are right than their parent. Don't underestimate the power of a parent. Mother knows best. Constantly they get mad at you because they always want what the best for their child. Time flies so fast. Don't let your parent out of your life, sooner or later you will need them. Always thank to your parent that they always there for you no matter what happen. Love them, respect them and always take care of them.


I found an article entitled "The girlfriend Instinct" by Debba Haupert. It's all about her girl friend, about a female friendship. In her story, she have a two girlfriends that have a cancer but they are survivor. She's so sorrowful what happened to her 2 two girlfriends. So she came to think why is girlfriends is so important. As women, we need to know what being girlfriend means. Once in a while we need to take a rest and think some friends. Sometime we miss opportunities to be involved in the world, to learn a new things and appreciate people around us. So the diagnoses of her two girlfriends, she recognize the true friendship and fill the time and memories together.

According to Debba Haupert "Too often it takes an illness or loss to hit us with reality, and appreciation of friendship." Some people don't recognize the true meaning of friendship. Learn how to appreciate friendship. Life is better together with your friends. Even though your personalities is completely difference from one another you'll will learn how to accept it. 



Trust, Love, Acceptance and Understanding. Isn't easy to have a relation in other people.  But it's easy to associate with it.I'm blessed to build my relationship with my friends, brother, parents, teacher and some other people. We need a time to appreciate them and treasure the moment with them. Life is to short. Love people around you so that you will be happier and healthier enough to face everyday with your precious people in your life.

Blogspot4: Science of Friendship

"If I had only one friend left, I want it to be you" lines from a song "One friend" by Dan Seal. I dedicating that song for my best friend. Whenever I heard that song I always remember my best friend.It's so amazing to have a best friend, right? I appreciate when she always here by my side. We always having fun and share problem to each other. We learn to face the reality of the world. My life is really so prismatic with my best friend. With her, I can take up new things and learn how to accept each other characteristics. She's the one who taught me how to appreciate little things in life and no matter what happen always pray to God. I learned so many things from her. Because of my best friend I'm stronger enough to face each and everyday. I met her when we I was a child, she's my neighborhood .Sometimes, I ask myself how people make friends for today change, can we able to stable our friendship through online networking site, and how can we mighty the communication we had the previous year without the technologies we have today in our lives. Is friendship is destine?

 I found an article entitled "Science May Explain Why Your Friendship Fall Apart" by Felix Reed.In this preceding year, our lives in this world invade by the new technologies. Felix Reed ask his self if the new technologies can improve one ability to support a circle of close friends. So he did  a experiments and some observation to make an answer in his question. And later on the answer appears to be no. By his observation, in our new technologies can't changes the strength of one's friendship. He described the Social Signature, it is to build the different social friendship. It has a pattern or a factor: time, have a finite amount of time to maintain the friendship; Emotional capital, requires to stable the emotions; and Cognitive Limitation, it's the human brain that are embedded in strongly interrelated In that factor describe that individuals social signature doesn't change over in time.


According to Felix Reed "The abundance and pervasiveness of new technological platforms and devices that can mediate social interactions would appear to suggest that we are not only finding new channels for communication, but that our social world is being enlarged and transformed." Our social world can be enlarged and transformed but in friendship it doesn't affect. By his observation, I realized that no matter how world be changed by the new technologies drive in to our life, friendship stay constantly. And never change the way we treat to our friends through the new technologies but our social communication can be enlarged for the help of it






I read an article entitled " The Science and Philosophy of Friendship: Lesson from Aristotle on the Art of Connecting" by Maria Popova. In this article, Aristotle give lesson that defined friendship in other matters. He stated the classification of friendship in three categories. First, friendship in pleasure, it is the direct pleasure brings in friendship. Second, friendship in utility, which you can gain benefit in a relationship. And last, friendship is virtue, it is the highest kind of friendship and you become a friends because of his virtue. We value friendship for social dimension and bring happiness in our entire life. He also stated in this article that friendship is such an instrument to our live to make it enrich.

According to some Scientist and Philosopher in this article that "friendship is an essential ingredient of human happiness". Life is morbid without friends around us. We know that all of us can't live without the companion of others. Yes, it is the essential ingredient to our life. They make us feel better to have a friend. Sometimes, friends can make ourselve improve as a person.It is our happiness when we are around our friends. They can cheer you up whenever you feel down in your sorrowful moment. Life we'll be meaningful with our friends.

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No matter how this earth has change. Yes, I think friendship is destine too. Because God gave everything for a reason. Reason why me met our friends in our life today. Friend are the  people who sustain us beyond our family. One who stand by us whether we are succeed or fail. Give you a meaningful life despite of the biggest problems your facing. The one who understand you no matter how little things you are weird of.Never fail to make you happy. Love you unconditionally no matter she knows all your negative sides and accept you with her whole life. Its so hard to find a person like that. Never underestimate friendship. In life, it would be mournful if you don't have a best friend. So I always thanking God that he gave me a friend that what i have right now. I promise to myself that i will never let them go in my life.

Blog 2: INSPIRATION

"Inspiration is the act or power of exercising an elevating or stimulating influence upon the which quickens and or stimulates; as, the inspiration of occasion, of art, etc."  Inspiration can be a person, things or even

 a dream can be. It can improve the meaning of life and to uplift our souls. I made everyone my inspiration because I treasure all people and things in my life. My number 1 inspiration is God, who created us and all creatures in this world. Who always here for me and forgive me even I have so many beastly things I made. Second, is my family of course, they always here for me no matter how huge my trouble is and love me unconditionally. And lastly is my friends, who accepted me and always take care of me. I can't leave without them, it's so frightening to live my life without them in my life. They are my strength in my weaknesses in my life. They always inspire me to make to make goal for myself. It's so huge success if they are always in your heart no matter what happen. 

I read an article entitled "LIFE" by Kristen Killgore. She believes that everything in life is a lesson. Everything can inspire us and to have an opportunity to get some lesson from everything. Choice is easy but sometimes it's hard enough to make it. In this article can inspire people and to realize things that they may forgotten at times. In life inspiration is the biggest aspects, it can help you to encourage one's blemish things and allow you to accept what's to accept.

 According to Kristen Killgore "No one's life is perfect and no one turns out exactly the way they wanted or expected, but life shouldn't be a burden or something that you dread." Sometimes people don't realize they can make inspire other around them. You can make an inspiration to everybody else, no one is perfect though you can make their life completely. Don't let your fear knock you down, always hold your inspiration to get your feet up and reach the top. Bear up always so you can boost your self to do better in life. Try not to expect because it can neglect your feelings sometimes. Love your life as you love people around you and inspire people as people inspire you.

I found an article entitled "Refuse to be defeated" by Howard Nevin. He stated what happened with his life facing so many  problems. He battled three types of cancer and had a four surgeries. His wife was in horrible car accident. And he lost two family member and a closest friend. He asked himself, "what motivates me

?". It's a simple question, how he will face the problem? He look up God and hold his hand to God with his strongest faith.God inspire him to never give up even there's so many reason. God gave us challenges to make our self stronger not to make our self more weakness. Sometime you think why so many problem in your life, it can make you a better person. Have an inspiration, so it can help you to look towards you huge problems.

According to Howard Nevin "God lets me awaken to face each new day, some positive and some with their challenges, some mixed." Never let anyone ruin your day, face it with your smile in your face and try to brighten your whole world. God is always here for you and for us even though sometimes we forget to pray or we forget him sometimes. Be optimistic as soon as possible so you can look forward for the challenges will be given to you sooner or later. No matter how hard your problem is, remember God is always there to cheer you up. You can talk to him before you sleep, to get out the stress encountered. Inspire You, Inspired by God =)

For living 17 years.. God never fail to make me stronger and stronger everyday. Because of Him I always stay optimistic in my life even though i can see him, i can always feel his presence. Never listen for what others saying. For my Family and my friends.. i love you all =) Thank you for being part of my life until now. Without my inspiration, i would not be motivated to do things i have done. All of them continues to inspire me to do marvelous things in my life. I think, i wouldn't be the person I am today without all of them in my life. Stay with me, inspire me and love me.